Curating Your Life Reel

I listened to a podcast recently in which the author reflected on applying social media algorithms to her life.

Her basic point was this – When you click/react/comment/share clothing ads or true crime or dog rescue or particular politics or people, Facebook (and the other social media feeds) fills your feed with more of the same.

So, the more you click on one topic/opinion/person, the more you are bombarded with more of the same, and the less you see of opposing viewpoints or other topics or particular ‘friends’.

Which explains how when a person spends a lot of time on social media, our world can become skewed. We might begin to see the world through a different lens—the lens being curated by a bot that feeds back to you more of the same. Just like a Pandora playlist.

I don’t have to point out the danger in this for our world, but I will point out the way affect your mindset and thus your life.

I’ve always been a big believer in ‘You are what you eat’ in terms of health, but I think it holds true for what/who you choose to follow and engage with. Clickbait is called that for a reason – it’s bait that is used to catch your attention, your mind, your money, your soul.

If we focus on (read: click, scroll, follow) negative images/ideas/news, then we will begin to see a negative world. If we surround ourselves with cynical, snarky, unkind people, the more we are likely to imitate them.

Of course, the reverse is also true. Just like you can curate a great playlist on Pandora (or wherever), you can also curate an inspiring, motivating, heart-expanding feed, and engage with more nurturing, thoughtful, soul-expanding people.

It’s all in where you spend your time and where you click your mouse. “Where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”

I believe, especially as I get older, that our time is our greatest treasure.

I don’t know about you, but I want how I spend my time to reflect (and reflect back to me) where I place my treasure.

I want to curate a life feed that is filled with people who nurture and support, stories that inspire and challenge, and images that heal and bring hope.

And I want to send the same messages out into the world.

So…all of that is to say, we need to focus on the good. There is plenty of evil out there, but the only thing that banishes darkness is light. Be a light.

Hey, thanks for reading. I know you’ve got lots of options, so thanks for sharing a few of your minutes with me.



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Author: Cara Sue Achterberg

I am a writer, blogger, and dog rescuer. I live in the darling town of Woodstock, Virginia in the Shenandoah Valley with my husband and three rescue dogs (who rescue me on a daily basis). Find more information about my books, my dogs, and all my writing adventures at

3 thoughts on “Curating Your Life Reel”

  1. Cara, this is an important and valuable message for all of us. Thank you for writing it. I have been overwhelmed by Medium. I thought it would be good for me to get a few pieces published and for manly that appears to be the case, but it felt like a tsunami for me. So many things came in every single day, it took away what time I had for writing. It also teaches you how to write click bait and it is very effective. Enough, alright, already. I quit that. Back to reading only a select few people and you are one! With all good wishes to you and your family, Cheryl Achterberg


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